Your visibility problem
A different take on the fear of being seen.
Maybe you can relate.
A theme I’ve seen with my coaching clients is this combination.
The big vision of being a pop sensation on a global stage, or teaching yoga in a festival stadium.
Alongside, the fantasy of working from home in a rural setting, or living on a farm.
Do you see the inherent conflict?
There is an internal battle for visibility vs. privacy.
Many people in the manifestation world would fuel the big dream. “Don’t hold yourself back!” or “Just be yourself!”
But in practice, these clients struggle to take a simple action towards their goal. Especially if they have an ambition for creating an impact or helping a lot of people.
What they actually find themselves living is a pattern of one step forward, two steps back. This also expresses itself as procrastination, self-criticism, and unconscious self-sabotage.
Here’s what is actually happening:
This person has two “parts” in their psyche that are at odds.
The wounded child is desperate for validation to prove her inherent goodness and creative expression.
The protector part fears getting in trouble for being clever, beautiful, or speaking up.
So, the wounded child engages in fantasy as a soothing and coping mechanism. Any attempt to make it “real” activates the protector guard into action, and then the fantasy is pushed to further extremes as a comfort.
The inner battle continues, each side becoming further polarized.
In coaching, I don’t help you resolve this. You won’t hear me say, “Just put yourself out there!!”
Because I know that forcing a resolution will flare up both parts, further polarizing your inner world.
Instead, we create safety within the uncertainty.
Over 12 weeks, we create a soft foundation within you that will propel you for decades.
It’s okay to want to be seen, and want to be safe.
Thank you for exploring the stars (and inner cosmos) with me!
Dani
P.S.: Were you surprised that the soul wasn’t the part that had the big vision? I was. Increasingly, I find the soul to be neutral about accomplishments, impact, and even our progress on healing ourselves. It’s here to feel, and take it all in with love and acceptance.
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